MIGHTY MILSPOUSE

6 tips for making the most of a military ball

Whether you're a first-timer or a seasoned military spouse heading to their umpteenth ball, rest assured you can have an enjoyable, memorable event. Military balls are a time-honored tradition, and while they're not in everyone's immediate comfort zone, they can make for a fun experience you won't soon forget.


In order to attend your best ball yet, take these tips to heart, and to your upcoming formal event.

1. Choose an outfit you love

First things first, it's important to dress the part. Whether you're decked out in a fancy gown, perfectly tailored tuxedo, or anything in between, find what suits you. Choose attire that makes you feel strong and confident. No one wants to be adjusting their undergarments every few minutes. Take some time to find an outfit that actually fits, and that flatters your personal tastes.

You'll be far more relaxed when feeling attractive, so don't be afraid to put yourself first and find a getup you're excited to show off!

2. Be friendly

No one wants to sit next to strangers … but it's even worse when sitting next to a stranger who doesn't talk or engage in any type of conversation. (Yes, this happens.) Talk to folks at your table and make nice! It will make the evening far more enjoyable, even if you don't walk away friends. If you're introverted, break the ice with small talk over decor, seating arrangements, the weather, parking, anything!

Whether or not you end up sitting next to folks you know, engage with them, and remain friendly throughout the night to make for a better time.

3. Take part in the festivities

Each service branch and battalion will have its own traditions, so go ahead, jump on the bandwagon! We're talking chants, specific handshakes, checking out displays, or voting for personalized awards. Jump into the fun!

Then again, be careful of TOO MUCH fun. Military balls are known for being heavy on the libations, and it's a good idea to stay aware of how much you're drinking, especially if sampling group punches.

Chances are, you won't be associated with the unit for long, so you can make the most of each ball appearance by going all in and doing what it is they do best.

4. Don’t come starving

While it's true you're there to eat, that's just part of the night. There are too many variables -- maybe you won't like the food, maybe someone took your fish and left you with steak (or vice versa, depending on your preferences). Or maybe you're busy talking and don't want to be shoving food in your face while doing so. In any case, eat a snack before you come and maybe plan a drive-thru trip on your way home. Whatever you can do to make sure you aren't hangry!

5. Make a day of it

Relax. Take your time to get ready. Don't rush it so you can enjoy the experience as a whole. This is a fun experience for all. Don't consider the day just for your spouse or "mandatory fun," but something you can celebrate together and with coworkers.

6. Show off your date!

As an extension of your military member, how you act, and what you do reflects on them. Remember to be on your best behavior (of course, that doesn't mean you can't have fun!). Be polite, make small talk, and find a way to have fun. You should also take their lead. Let them introduce you to coworkers, get appetizers, order drinks, etc. While yes, you're going to have a good time, technically, this is their work event, and you should follow their moves.

Attending a military ball should be a fun, memorable experience, no matter how many of them you attend. Look to the above to more easily plan your night toward having a great time!

What's your best military ball tip?