MIGHTY MILSPOUSE

Blooming together: Our salute to moms

Lizann Lightfoot

May is a month to celebrate military spouses and mothers, so let's give a salute to all the military spouse moms holding the family together and keeping things going on the homefront!

Military life is always challenging, but it's especially difficult when your service member is away and you're the solo parent. This month, we shine a spotlight on military spouse moms navigating through deployments. Thank you, mothers, for your generous love and sacrifices.



To the mothers missing their service member:

We know it's difficult when your service member is gone. It doesn't matter how long they are away, whether it is a deployment, a TDY, or just a few days of training. We salute you, moms who are on your own. We know there are times when you cry in the shower or in your car, just so the kids won't see your tears. And we know that you have what it takes to keep going.

"I've temporarily had to say see you later to my best friend, my teammate, and my partner in crime. My husband deploying was extremely difficult on myself and our four children. However, going through all of this without my husband allowed me to experience first-hand that I can, I will, I do, and I did handle deployment like a boss."
- Megan, Navy spouse

To the pregnant mothers:

We see you, moms who are juggling the difficulties of pregnancy with the obstacles of military life. To all those trying to plan a baby in between PCS moves and deployments, and experiencing sickness and fatigue on your own—we salute you! Even when you feel exhausted, you are everything your baby needs.

"I'm about to be a mom of two Irish twins. My son is 9 months old right now. I'm due again in three months. I'm very nervous not having my husband by my side for this one but I have to be strong for the both of us."
- Meagan, Army spouse

To the mothers of little ones:

We salute you, mothers surrounded by diapers and bottles, unfolded laundry, and art projects. When you feel like you're going crazy, remember that you are not alone! You're part of an incredible club of mothers who are making things work one day at a time.

"I am a mom of four under 7. I took a leave of absence from my job a few months into this deployment. I mentally couldn't handle my career and solo parenting. It was the best decision I made, and has given me an opportunity to experience being a stay-at-home mom. Because I have so many young children, routine is really important."
- Emily, National Guard spouse

To the mothers of teens:

We know you've been feeling invisible ever since the middle school years. Even when your kids treat you like a taxi and meal delivery service, know that you are still their rock. We salute you for all the times you stay up late, taking care of the emotional needs of these bigger kids.

"Working mom of three teenage daughters here. That means this momma goes 100 mph six days a week. As tired as I am sometimes, I enjoy taking them to practices and games."
- Terri, Army spouse

To the mothers struggling with infertility:

Our hearts go out to the mothers who have struggled with the pain, loss, and disappointment of infertility. Whether you are already a mother hoping for more children, or you are longing to someday hold your own child, we see you and we salute you.

"We were going through IVF treatment during a year-long deployment. It was the most difficult deployment by far because I was going through a medical treatment that was draining emotionally and physically. It was a hard year, but it was a year of growth."
- Linda, Air Force spouse

To the mothers who are caregivers:

As a mother, you already give your energy, your love, and your care to your children. To those who also care for their service member or take on the responsibility of aging parents, we salute your generosity and we wish you all the patience in the world.

"I've lost a lot of my own independence and free time which is probably the hardest. I'm exhausted at the end of the day. Moving my mother-in-law in actually ended up being way harder and less help than we had hoped."
- Caitlin, National Guard spouse

To the stepmothers and blended families:

They should call you the bonus mom when you take on bonus kids and open your heart to his, yours, and ours. We salute your love, your patience, and your perseverance.

"We are a quintessential blended family. We each have children from previous marriages. I am pregnant with our second "ours" baby. Sea duty life has rocked our world for the last three years. He's been gone as much as he's been home."
- Julie, Navy spouse

To the mothers in dual military marriages:

You are juggling all the responsibilities, and so much falls on your shoulders. You are supporting your spouse's military career, while pursuing your own, and trying to do what's best for your children too. We salute you and thank you for your service!

"It's hard being the service member and the spouse. Sometimes it's easier to go to work and focus on a mission than it is to stay at home with the kids and not hear from him."
- Lauren, Navy married to a Marine

Whatever stage you are in, military spouse, we support you and wish you a happy Mother's Day!

This article originally appeared on Military Spouse. Follow @MilSpouseMag on Twitter.