The top 6 reasons civilians back out of military service

Lots of civilians make a trip to the recruiter with an eye toward military service, full of patriotic zeal and martial courage. But many have reasons not to join the military and pull out at the last minute and give their friends and family some song and dance about why they couldn't commit. Anyone who's ever served in uniform has probably heard someone say the immortal line: "I would have joined the military, but..."

A recruit who wants to join but is physically disqualified is disappointing for both the recruit and the recruiter. Applicants can be physically disqualified because of asthma, bad eyesight, scoliosis, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and other causes. Sometimes people disqualify themselves with tattoos, ear gauges or other kinds of body art.

Some occupations in the military are the most dangerous jobs in the world, but that doesn't mean they will necessarily lead to death. The type of job and location of a recruit's duty station will determine the risk that military personnel encounter. Approximately 80 percent of career fields in the military are non-combat related.

Still, some potential recruits are convinced their service will kill them.

Being in a relationship while going through the process of enlisting is challenging. Getting married or having a child as a single parent may affect the process of enlistment and eligibility to serve. Some refuse to leave their partner behind and instead give up on a potential military career for love.

Open positions are based on the needs and manning of the particular service. In the Navy, (my expertise) most jobs do not have to be permanent. Changing jobs can be easy if there's a new job open and you can meet the qualifications. The Army has a program where a service member can re-enlist and change his MOS. But for some people, not having the ideal job is non-negotiable, so they never enlist.

Recruiters have a duty and job to fill the needs of the military, but they are also responsible for building a connection with applicants. The relationship between a recruiter and a candidate is often seen as a reflection of what the service will be like, but that shouldn't not be the only thing to consider. Still, a negative recruiting experience can discourage people from joining.

The service is not for everyone and though the idea of joining seems attractive because of the honor, the uniform and the respect — it is a sacrifice. Some people may at some point feel they can make it but don't. After weighing the pros and cons, people just change their mind.