The Knock at the Door, a new book from three women who lost loved ones in Iraq and Afghanistan, goes through the women's stories of loss as well as the lessons they learned while recovering and rebuilding their lives. Their lessons aren't limited to other military families, though. They'll help anyone who has suffered a sudden loss.
The military has a very prescribed, formal process for telling Gold Star families about the loss of their service member. Two to three members of that branch of the military will receive word that they need to notify a family of a casualty. They carefully double and triple check the information. They ensure each other's uniforms are perfect. And then they knock at the door.