Using your military communication skills in the home

This post is sponsored by the UCLA/VA Veteran Family Wellness Center (VFWC).

When you consider your family as a unit, you put its well-being before everything else, including yourself. After almost 8 years of marriage to my veteran, there are times I've had to dig deep into my well of patience. When my partner just said something so incredibly pig-headed that I, an angel, am left wondering what bloated, booger-eating alien just inhabited his brain and made his mouth move, I have to stop, take a breath, and remind myself that we are a unit. Is being right the most important thing in this moment? Is what I'm about to say or do going to serve the strength of the unit, or am I going to spin my wheels trying to outmaneuver my husband in an argument?

Despite what you might think, leaning back on things I've learned from the military lifestyle is what helps us keep comms open and clear.

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7 advantages "military brats" have in life

This post is sponsored by the UCLA/VA Veteran Family Wellness Center (VFWC).

Childhood is complicated in its own right. You're starting to glimpse the way the world works but it doesn't really make sense. You try on different personalities to find the right fit like jeans at the department store. You're pretty sure if you sit too close to the TV, you won't go cross-eyed, despite what the adults say. There's a winged fairy that slips in your room in the middle of the night to discreetly buy old teeth that have fallen out of your mouth.

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Perks of having a deployed husband

A guide to finding the gold nuggets in that steaming pile of anxiety poo.

Shaw AFB is known by those stationed there as Separates Husbands And Wives. Between the Red Flags at Nellis, the endless human centipede of exercises, and a deployment, my husband Mike was gone over half of our days during that assignment. It was there I learned what it meant to be alone even while in a marriage, but I dealt with it by finding pockets of positivity. Deployments are tough, but if you look, you can find some gold nuggets in that steaming pile of anxiety poo.

Here are some perks to having a deployed husband:

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My husband's mistress is an F-16

Rachel is an Air Force spouse and Texas native whose husband flies as an F-16 pilot in the U.S. Air Force Reserves.

It was October 2015 and Hurricane Joaquin was headed right for us. I stared out the back patio at the darkening skies as my husband, an F-16 pilot, packed his bags.

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