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7 tips for getting away with fraternization

So, you've got a fever and the only cure is a consensual adult relationship that violates the Uniform Code of Military Justice? It happens.


And by the way, it can happen among friends, but for this article, we're going to talk about sexual or romantic relationships.

Paraphrasing here from the Manual for Courts Martial: Fraternization in the military is a personal relationship between an officer and an enlisted member that violates the customary bounds of acceptable behavior and jeopardizes good order and discipline.

You poor fool... (Image via Meme Generator)

That's a mouthful, but it boils down to the intent of guidelines for any relationship among professionals: The appearance of favoritism hurts the group, and, with the military in particular, could actually get someone killed.

Also read: 13 Hilarious Meme Replies To Our Article About Dating On Navy Ships

But we're only human, right? It's natural to fall for someone you work with, so here are a couple of tips that can help keep you out of Leavenworth:

1. Don't do it

I'm your friend. I'm trying to help you. (Image via Make a Meme)

Seriously. Cut it off when you first start to feel the butterflies-slash-burning-in-your-loins. Flirting is a rush and it's fun and NO.

Hit the gym. Take a break. Swipe right on Tinder. Do whatever you have to do to nip it in the bud before it gets out of control.

 2. Be discreet

Let's just be honest: everyone knows. (Image via Meme Generator)

Okay, fine, you're going for it anyway. We've all been there (nervous laughter...).

People are more intuitive than you think. Don't give them any reason to suspect you and your illicit goings-on. Be completely professional at work. Don't flirt in the office. Don't send sweet nothings over government e-mail (yes, it is being monitored).

3. Keep it off-base

But, like, far away... (Image via Meme Maker)

Don't be stupid, okay? Get away from the watchful eyes all the people around you who live and breathe military regulations.

4. Square away

Nab one of these, if you can. (Image via LDS Church History Library)

The thing about military punishment is that you are usually judged by your commander first. If you do get caught, you want people to really regret the idea of punishing you.

Be amazing at your job — better yet, be the best at your job. Be irreplaceable. Be a leader and a team player and a bad ass. Set the example with your physical fitness and your marksmanship and your ability to destroy terrorism.

Be beloved by all and you just might get away with a slap on the wrist...

5. Plausible deniability

Yes, but you can't PROVE anything... (Image via imgflip)

I would never tell you to lie because integrity and honor are all totes important and stuff, but...

If lawyers can't prove beyond reasonable doubt that you were actually engaged in criminal activity, you could be spared from a conviction.

Maybe it was just a coincidence that you both happened to be volunteering at the same time. It was for the orphans...

How could you have known that you both like to spend Christmas in Hawaii?

It's not your fault Sgt. Hottie wanted to attend a concert in the same town where your parents live, right?

6. Talk it out

Hell hath no fury... (Image via Meme Generator)

If you can't have a mature conversation with this person about how to conduct yourselves in the workplace or how you'd each face the consequences of being discovered, you really shouldn't be getting it on.

You are both risking your careers and livelihoods because of this relationship — don't take it lightly.

And whatever you do, treat each other with honesty and respect — you're all you have right now.

7. Don't go to the danger zone

Save it for CONUS. (Image via Meme Generator)

I know you know this, but here's the thing: REALLY DON'T DO IT (PUN INTENDED) WHILE IN A COMBAT ZONE.

This is life and death. Remind yourself why you chose to serve your country. Pay attention to the men and women around you who trust you and rely on you to protect them.

LOCK IT UP. You're a warrior and you have discipline.

Did we leave anything out? Leave a comment and let us know.

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